A Note on Self-Love
"You cannot love another unless you love yourself first."
I don't remember where or when I first heard this, but once I really thought about this statement and took it to heart, everything started changing for me. Sounds cliche but true.
Sure, many of us have great people in our lives that love us unconditionally, but no one can love you better than you can love yourself. Often times, we look for others to love us - sometimes to fill a void, sometimes because we think that the only way we can receive what we want is through others.
But the truth is, no one can treat you better than you. And until you start treating yourself the way you deserve to be treated, others won't treat you well either. You see, the way we let others treat us is a direct reflection of the way we feel about ourselves. Simply, our self-worth dictates a lot of what happens in our lives.
Always remember, we accept the love we think we deserve.
It seems that often times when people are in bad relationships, it's because they think that's the best they can do, the most love they deserve. Other times, when people are in really good relationships they can sometimes wonder "how did I get so lucky? do I deserve this?" Quick and simple answer: YES! You deserve all of the love and goodness that comes your way. But you have to believe this. You have to believe in you and love yourself.
Loving yourself isn't a selfish thing. I think we get confused sometimes and mix conceit and selfishness with self-love. Quite the opposite. When you feel good about yourself, raise yourself to a higher standard, and respect yourself you're doing others in your life a favor, too. You can love them better. You'll be so much happier and content with your life.
(I know all of this sounds so mushy and corny. Trust me, I'm the first person to admit that I absolutely hate mushy stuff...but all of it is true. Promise.)
Now, the road to self-love isn't an easy one and is surely different for everyone but it's something that is truly attainable.
For now, take a second and think: do you truly love yourself?