The Importance of Being Honest With Yourself
Can I be honest for a second? The truth sucks. It hurts. It's painful. It's hard to tell the truth and that's probably why so many of us don't. I can't think of one person who is honest all of the time. Sure, a little white lie here + there may be necessary but what about when we lie to ourselves?
How many of us can say that we're completely honest with ourselves? And when I say honest, I mean we recognize that we don't have it all together; we face our demons head on; we're honest about what we want + need; we're honest that our dreams don't match up to our reality; and we're so honest that we don't make excuses for ourselves.
If I can be honest again: I'm a confused 20-something-year-old learning life's lessons by making mistakes every day.
I don't have it all together, and if I'm being really honest with myself, I probably won't for awhile and that's okay. Even though I know this now, I used to pretend that I knew what the heck I was doing. Surprise, surprise I didn't. I portrayed to my family, friends, and the world that I had everything figured out + handled; no need to worry about me. Boy, was that the wrong approach. Maybe you could blame it on my age or naivety, but really I wasn't able to be honest with myself because I wasn't able to be honest with others.
See, there's this thing called pride that holds us back. Our pride won't let us face the truth. Our pride won't allow us to see ourselves for who we really are. Our pride won't let us come to grips with reality. But honey, pride can only get you so far.
Don't let pride hold you back.
We have to stop feeling like we need to portray this perfect picture to the outside world. We have to stop feeling like we can figure everything out on our own. We have to learn that it's okay to admit that we're not superhuman and we can't do it all. We have to start admitting our confusion, our disappointment, and our fears to our friends, family, and the people around us. We have to start being open + honest with each other. We just have to.
As humans we should help one another, but no one can help you if you're not honest that you need help in the first place. And if you're not upfront with others you're only handicapping yourself.
#LifeLessonLearned: Let go of your pride + open up. It's okay to admit that you don't have it all together.
I want you to take a long, hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask, "Am I being honest?". It may hurt but honesty is the first step in leading you where you're meant to go.