How To Stay Sane In A Room Full Of Crazies

How To Stay Sane, from xoalwayrae.com

Have you ever been surrounded by insanity? Like, full-blown "these people have lost their freakin' mind" type of insanity? Well, I have and if you haven't already guessed, it's not exactly my idea of fun.

Crazies (my endearing term for negative people) are everywhere. These are people who love drama, feed off of negativity, and have the incessant need to complain 24/7.

I'm sure we all know one or two crazies in our lives. But what if these crazies are your friends, your coworkers, or even your family members?!

Let's start with your friends: I get it, you don't want to be mean and kick anyone to the curb, especially if you've been friends for years. But, your sanity is waaaaay more important than being friends with someone who is negative all the time because, eventually, they will only bring you down with them. 

In the last few months, I have ended several friendships. Although I may respect and care for them, I realized I could not be around them. Trying to live a fulfilled, happy life is not going to work if you surround yourself with friends who aren't genuinely uplifting or supportive. Sorry "crazy friends", but you gotta go.

Now on to the harder crazies to avoid: coworkers and family members. 

Many of us have a job that requires us to work with/for others, just like many of us live with a family member or two. So, what if the people you're spending 40+ hours a week with drive you absolutely mad with their constant negativity? How do you stay on the path of positivity and not allow yourself to get sucked into crazy land? Sure, you may love them, but staying sane in a room full of crazies is not easy, but it can be done. Here's how:

Set your intentions

When you wake up in the morning, before you start your day and come into contact with anyone, it is important to set your intentions. Tell yourself this: "Today, I will be happy and positive. I refuse to let anyone bring me down with their negativity or drama. I will not involve myself in any conversations that involve complaining or gossiping." Repeat this to yourself and really make it a point to live your day with these intentions set in stone. 

*I decided to do an experiment: The first half of the week, I woke up and set my positive intentions. The rest of the week , I did not. To say that there was a difference in my mood and outcome of my day is an understatement! The days I didn't make it a point to avoid negativity, I found myself involved in gossipy conversations and complaining about my own woe-is-me stories. I let my sanity slip and got too comfortable in crazy drama. However, the days I followed through on my intentions, I felt most like myself - happy, positive, and uplifted!

Combat the darkness with light

Negativity comes easy to some people, sometimes too easy. It can be difficult to not get sucked in and lose your mind, too. Craziness is contagious, yet so is happiness. The next time you are faced with a coworker's or family member's negativity, I challenge you to match their negative statement with a positive one. For example, if they are looking at a situation from a "glass half empty" perspective, play devil's advocate and mention why the glass is actually half full. Sure, they may think you're annoying because you're not indulging them (see below) but at least you're doing your part to spread light - exactly what this world needs more of!

Don't indulge

Drama cannot continue if you do not participate in it. See, drama needs to be fed. It needs someone to continue fueling it and fan the flames. Don't be that person to carry on the crazy. Though it may seem counterintuitive, it's best if you're not agreeable with someone who is saying something negative to you. Why? Because if you validate their negativity, they are going to continue and think that it is okay. Instead, find the best way to remove yourself from the conversation.

Stay in your lane

And lastly, the simplest tip of all: stay focused on yourself and don't get involved in another person's craziness. Easier said than done sometimes but as long as your focus is on your life, your gratitude, and your happiness, sanity will be much easier to maintain.

xo always, RAE